The wedding’ is one of society's most valued traditions, one that is honored worldwide, and more so in India.
However, in the present scenario, while the quest for a prospective companion is getting increasingly demanding, the time that is allotted towards searching for that perfect person has reduced to a great bit, owing to those in the eligible age category focusing strictly on building their careers.
There was a time in the past when the bride and groom were pre requisites for any marriage. The other paraphernalia surrounding marriage was decided only after this all-important decision had been made. However, given the time constraints nowadays, the bride and groom are probably the last things to be zeroed in on, while the clothes, jewellery, venue, etc are all sourced much before. And that, at present is the biggest dilemma of Indian Weddings.
To counter the obstacle posed by limited time, Indian Matrimonial industry has gone through a revamp, and the picture of a marriage broker with a huge diary tucked in with photographs has slowly phased out. The latent need for a medium that would transcend spatial and geographical limitations has led to the rise of the Online Matrimonial Industry. Shaadi.com was the first company of its kind in this line of business, and has been around for 10 years now. Today the site enjoys the first mover advantage not just in terms of brand recognition and acceptability but also in terms of brand presence.
What these online sites do is allow you to search for your perfect one from the comfort of your home and at a time convenient to you, thus doing away with time spent on visiting relatives or prospective relatives’ homes to find an interesting match.
In today’s day and age, ‘convenience’ is the key word. Online India Matrimonials site have successfully brought better matches, better searches, better tools and greater ease of use to users in their own homes and at their respective time.
doshiza.com has tools like – doshiza.com Messenger, AstroSoulmate Search, doshiza Toolbar, etc – which have enabled it to today boast of over 10 million members and 300 million page views per month and over 100000, successful marriages.
The wedding industry in India is huge and has great potential, however, challenges like limited infrastructure, and a largely unorganized market, have limited the growth rate of this colorful and joyous industry.
Yet, changing trends seem to be indicating a positive future, with the non-conventional matchmaking mediums gaining wider acceptance.
Also, the basic mentality and approach towards these mediums is transforming. Individuals no longer look upon arranged marriage mediums as the last resort to finding your partner, rather matrimonial websites are now considered as a favored means of conveniently getting the kind of person that you have always wanted.
Thursday, September 10, 2009
The Indian Matrimonial Dictionary
Matrimonial columns are a delight to read, when they're not downright disgusting.
Indian matrimonial columns are something. When it comes to attitude and language, there's no beating them. They also reveal a lot about society. 'Wheatish', 'homely', 'convent-educated', 'innocent divorcee' - are terms you find in Indian matrimonial classifieds and carry their own esoteric meanings.
To begin with, are 'brides wanted' and 'grooms wanted' really derogatory terms treating love as commodity in the 'marriage market' governed by the economic principles of demand and supply? But many people like Swapan Mukherjee, Sociologist by profession, disagrees, "Brides Wanted and Grooms Wanted are not derogatory terms. They signify the need of the advertiser and classify the requirement in specific columns." In support Psychologist Chrisann Almeida also feels, "Marriage is deemed essential for virtually everyone in India, so the term "wanted" actually reflects an almost dire need, so I don't think it's derogatory as such. I'm disheartened about the lack of romance, but this is the reality of things in India."
Matrimonial advertisements haven't shown much change over the years. Ever since the 50s almost everyone wanted to marry a fair girl and the groom had to be financially established and from a so-called respectable family. Though most families were quite particular as far as caste and even gotra was considered, even in 1947, there were advertisements in which 'caste, community and religion' were no bar. Divorces were quite unheard of in 1947 but there were grooms from liberal families quite open to the idea of marrying a widow. However, over the years more importance has been paid to a girl's professional and academic background. When India just got independent it would generally suffice if the girl was just a matriculate and even 16-year-olds were considered old enough for marriage. Dowry hadn't been made a crime so it was asked for openly in print. Browsing through Indian matrimonial classifieds which appeared in the Amrita Bazar Patrika in 1947, one comes across lines like, 'preference to party willing to bear groom's foreign studies expenses' or 'reasonable / liberal dowry'. There were a few cases in which no dowry was asked for or the bride's father boldly refused to pay dowry. A nationalistic father had advertised in the year of the Indian Independence for his daughter's marriage stating- 'unable to pay adequate dowry according to modern foppish standards.'
A glance at contemporary Indian matrimonial classifieds reveals words like 'beautiful', 'professionally-qualified', 'respectable family', 'caring' etc... this may lead one to wonder - are all those who are advertising themselves as good-looking, virtuous and from well-to-do families as claimed in print? If it was really so why don't we see as many gorgeous looking people with great jobs all around us in everyday life? Why doesn't humility ever feature in matrimonial classifieds
The above just proves matrimonial advertising is very simply either about selling yourself, or sourcing a suitable mate, so you go the whole hog and sell yourself as hard as you can. Ever heard of any manufacturer underselling his product or service? Ditto for matrimonial ads!
Indian matrimonial columns are something. When it comes to attitude and language, there's no beating them. They also reveal a lot about society. 'Wheatish', 'homely', 'convent-educated', 'innocent divorcee' - are terms you find in Indian matrimonial classifieds and carry their own esoteric meanings.
To begin with, are 'brides wanted' and 'grooms wanted' really derogatory terms treating love as commodity in the 'marriage market' governed by the economic principles of demand and supply? But many people like Swapan Mukherjee, Sociologist by profession, disagrees, "Brides Wanted and Grooms Wanted are not derogatory terms. They signify the need of the advertiser and classify the requirement in specific columns." In support Psychologist Chrisann Almeida also feels, "Marriage is deemed essential for virtually everyone in India, so the term "wanted" actually reflects an almost dire need, so I don't think it's derogatory as such. I'm disheartened about the lack of romance, but this is the reality of things in India."
Matrimonial advertisements haven't shown much change over the years. Ever since the 50s almost everyone wanted to marry a fair girl and the groom had to be financially established and from a so-called respectable family. Though most families were quite particular as far as caste and even gotra was considered, even in 1947, there were advertisements in which 'caste, community and religion' were no bar. Divorces were quite unheard of in 1947 but there were grooms from liberal families quite open to the idea of marrying a widow. However, over the years more importance has been paid to a girl's professional and academic background. When India just got independent it would generally suffice if the girl was just a matriculate and even 16-year-olds were considered old enough for marriage. Dowry hadn't been made a crime so it was asked for openly in print. Browsing through Indian matrimonial classifieds which appeared in the Amrita Bazar Patrika in 1947, one comes across lines like, 'preference to party willing to bear groom's foreign studies expenses' or 'reasonable / liberal dowry'. There were a few cases in which no dowry was asked for or the bride's father boldly refused to pay dowry. A nationalistic father had advertised in the year of the Indian Independence for his daughter's marriage stating- 'unable to pay adequate dowry according to modern foppish standards.'
A glance at contemporary Indian matrimonial classifieds reveals words like 'beautiful', 'professionally-qualified', 'respectable family', 'caring' etc... this may lead one to wonder - are all those who are advertising themselves as good-looking, virtuous and from well-to-do families as claimed in print? If it was really so why don't we see as many gorgeous looking people with great jobs all around us in everyday life? Why doesn't humility ever feature in matrimonial classifieds
The above just proves matrimonial advertising is very simply either about selling yourself, or sourcing a suitable mate, so you go the whole hog and sell yourself as hard as you can. Ever heard of any manufacturer underselling his product or service? Ditto for matrimonial ads!
Muslim Matrimonial Sites are Gaining Popularity as an Alternative to Arranged Marriages
The internet has brought about a very progressive movement in the way couples have met online and why shouldn't it also help Muslims who are finding it difficult to find love. Muslim matrimonial sites have risen from the ashes of the arranged marriages fiasco. They offer men and women the chance to control their own destiny.
Muslim matrimonial sites have been circulating for years and have a small but rapidly growing following in the Muslim community. The way they operate is simple enough, single Muslims join looking for a partner but unlike other 'dating sites', the emphasis is not on dating but on finding a suitable marriage partner for life. Therefore the individuals who are on these Muslim matrimonial sites are comparatively more serious about their search for a partner as casual dating is not permitted in Islam.
Many Muslims still feel uncomfortable about admitting they have joined Muslim matrimonial sites. It is under the misconception that online Muslim matrimonial sites are only exclusive to the desperate or those that have something fundamentally wrong with their personality. This is simply not the case. Marriage websites have grown to become a useful and viable option when searching for a partner. Where else could you gain so much information about a prospective groom or bride without having to travel half way across the country.
You need to use reliable, established and proven Muslim matrimonial sites where you can start contacting people, and people can start contacting you immediately.
BayNikah.com a relatively young site came up due to a strong desire for a site that caters to the many Muslim singles especially in the Bay Area of California. It now endeavors to become the best Muslim matrimonial site which caters to Muslims all over the world.
BayNikah.com provides a comprehensive platform for Muslims from all over the world to find their suitable life partners. This Muslim matrimonial site offers free Muslim marriage matchmaking service, which helps in finding a potential match for you. It has a growing database of Muslim Matrimony where thousands of Muslim Single men and woman meet to find a perfect Muslim Match. Register yourself at doshiza.com and find your dream match.
Muslim matrimonial sites have been circulating for years and have a small but rapidly growing following in the Muslim community. The way they operate is simple enough, single Muslims join looking for a partner but unlike other 'dating sites', the emphasis is not on dating but on finding a suitable marriage partner for life. Therefore the individuals who are on these Muslim matrimonial sites are comparatively more serious about their search for a partner as casual dating is not permitted in Islam.
Many Muslims still feel uncomfortable about admitting they have joined Muslim matrimonial sites. It is under the misconception that online Muslim matrimonial sites are only exclusive to the desperate or those that have something fundamentally wrong with their personality. This is simply not the case. Marriage websites have grown to become a useful and viable option when searching for a partner. Where else could you gain so much information about a prospective groom or bride without having to travel half way across the country.
You need to use reliable, established and proven Muslim matrimonial sites where you can start contacting people, and people can start contacting you immediately.
BayNikah.com a relatively young site came up due to a strong desire for a site that caters to the many Muslim singles especially in the Bay Area of California. It now endeavors to become the best Muslim matrimonial site which caters to Muslims all over the world.
BayNikah.com provides a comprehensive platform for Muslims from all over the world to find their suitable life partners. This Muslim matrimonial site offers free Muslim marriage matchmaking service, which helps in finding a potential match for you. It has a growing database of Muslim Matrimony where thousands of Muslim Single men and woman meet to find a perfect Muslim Match. Register yourself at doshiza.com and find your dream match.
Muslim Matrimonial Sites are Gaining Popularity as an Alternative to Arranged Marriages
The internet has brought about a very progressive movement in the way couples have met online and why shouldn't it also help Muslims who are finding it difficult to find love. Muslim matrimonial sites have risen from the ashes of the arranged marriages fiasco. They offer men and women the chance to control their own destiny.
Muslim matrimonial sites have been circulating for years and have a small but rapidly growing following in the Muslim community. The way they operate is simple enough, single Muslims join looking for a partner but unlike other 'dating sites', the emphasis is not on dating but on finding a suitable marriage partner for life. Therefore the individuals who are on these Muslim matrimonial sites are comparatively more serious about their search for a partner as casual dating is not permitted in Islam.
Many Muslims still feel uncomfortable about admitting they have joined Muslim matrimonial sites. It is under the misconception that online Muslim matrimonial sites are only exclusive to the desperate or those that have something fundamentally wrong with their personality. This is simply not the case. Marriage websites have grown to become a useful and viable option when searching for a partner. Where else could you gain so much information about a prospective groom or bride without having to travel half way across the country.
You need to use reliable, established and proven Muslim matrimonial sites where you can start contacting people, and people can start contacting you immediately.
BayNikah.com a relatively young site came up due to a strong desire for a site that caters to the many Muslim singles especially in the Bay Area of California. It now endeavors to become the best Muslim matrimonial site which caters to Muslims all over the world.
BayNikah.com provides a comprehensive platform for Muslims from all over the world to find their suitable life partners. This Muslim matrimonial site offers free Muslim marriage matchmaking service, which helps in finding a potential match for you. It has a growing database of Muslim Matrimony where thousands of Muslim Single men and woman meet to find a perfect Muslim Match. Register yourself at www.doshiza.com and find your dream match.
Muslim matrimonial sites have been circulating for years and have a small but rapidly growing following in the Muslim community. The way they operate is simple enough, single Muslims join looking for a partner but unlike other 'dating sites', the emphasis is not on dating but on finding a suitable marriage partner for life. Therefore the individuals who are on these Muslim matrimonial sites are comparatively more serious about their search for a partner as casual dating is not permitted in Islam.
Many Muslims still feel uncomfortable about admitting they have joined Muslim matrimonial sites. It is under the misconception that online Muslim matrimonial sites are only exclusive to the desperate or those that have something fundamentally wrong with their personality. This is simply not the case. Marriage websites have grown to become a useful and viable option when searching for a partner. Where else could you gain so much information about a prospective groom or bride without having to travel half way across the country.
You need to use reliable, established and proven Muslim matrimonial sites where you can start contacting people, and people can start contacting you immediately.
BayNikah.com a relatively young site came up due to a strong desire for a site that caters to the many Muslim singles especially in the Bay Area of California. It now endeavors to become the best Muslim matrimonial site which caters to Muslims all over the world.
BayNikah.com provides a comprehensive platform for Muslims from all over the world to find their suitable life partners. This Muslim matrimonial site offers free Muslim marriage matchmaking service, which helps in finding a potential match for you. It has a growing database of Muslim Matrimony where thousands of Muslim Single men and woman meet to find a perfect Muslim Match. Register yourself at www.doshiza.com and find your dream match.
Online Matrimony Sites
Online Matrimony seems to be familiar to all who are of marriageable age. Matrimony means choosing your life partner one can either go right or wrong in their choice. A person makes choice while talking about matrimony from the feathers of ostrich or choosing the right from various odds while choosing the right partner. In most cases, matrimonial is a difficult task to choose the right life partner that may suit for the life. Today, numerous online matrimony sites are helping an individual to make the right choice in choosing the right soul mate in the process of matrimony. Few well known online matrimony sites are doshiza.com, etc.. having huge databank of the brides and grooms on net for making a choice.
In ancient times, searching for a life partner for their wards was done by parents or grandparents or the local matrimonial channel (relatives and advisers). However same would not be the case today. Now days, prospective bride or groom register themselves on various online www.doshiza.com or their parents register their ward profile on these sites for searching a right partner for them. These matrimonial sites provide choices in all aspects (religion, caste, community, location etc.) which can be a right choice or just a matter of miss for anyone, therefore it is always advisable to gain access to all that you have in hand and evaluate all before taking any decision. The matrimonial sites are the basic land to any choice made for the proposal of marriage. Matrimonial sites provide a platform to search either the bride or the groom however the ultimate responsibility lies on an individual.
In ancient times, searching for a life partner for their wards was done by parents or grandparents or the local matrimonial channel (relatives and advisers). However same would not be the case today. Now days, prospective bride or groom register themselves on various online www.doshiza.com or their parents register their ward profile on these sites for searching a right partner for them. These matrimonial sites provide choices in all aspects (religion, caste, community, location etc.) which can be a right choice or just a matter of miss for anyone, therefore it is always advisable to gain access to all that you have in hand and evaluate all before taking any decision. The matrimonial sites are the basic land to any choice made for the proposal of marriage. Matrimonial sites provide a platform to search either the bride or the groom however the ultimate responsibility lies on an individual.
The Best Wedding Favor Ideas
With a wedding comes tons of planning and organization. Among this you have to think about the cake, the flowers, the reception venue, the decor, the dresses, and much more. You also have to think about the wedding favors that you are going to give your guests. If you have no clue as to what to make these, here are some of the best and most affordable wedding favor ideas.
Finding the best wedding favors can be hard as there are lots of favors that you can choose from and many that are quite expensive. Considering that there are about 50 to 100 people or more at your wedding, you will have to plan your budget for the wedding favors accordingly. You might find that most wedding favors are too expensive.
Aside from the shells, you can also use other things that are free or that you have perhaps made. You can also give people something that might not seem like much, but that has a special meaning. This could be something like a packet of seeds that you want to share as you grow in your life together. It might be something simple like a poem or a single candle. You can wrap this with a ribbon and include a special message for your loved ones.
You can also have a special item made for you that will be a great reminder for people. You can do something like heart shaped fridge magnets with a special engraving. This can also be a key ring, or bottle stopper. Think about things people will get the most use out of.
Something that can also be cheap as it will double as another item is a bottle of bubbles. These can be blown by your guests instead of using confetti or throwing rice or petals. It will look stunning and your guests will get to keep these as well. You can print a message or your wedding date and have these stuck on each bottle.
You can also use lavender or something similar to make a wonderful scented gift. You can use the actual lavender sticks and tie them together with ribbon. Attach this to a unique recipe like lavender shortbread for people. You can also attach this to a small lavender scented miniature pillow that you put under your pillow to help you sleep.
Some of the best wedding favor ideas are ones you find on the internet. There are hundreds of wedding favor stores and online wedding sites that have tons of ideas and gifts for sale or that you can order. These include cigarette cases, lighters, bottle openers, photo frames, figurines, place card holders, candles, candle holders, boxes filled with chocolates or candies, and much more. There really are hundreds and hundreds of ideas for wedding favors.
With all these ideas you can now start to think about what you want to give people as a thank you. What do you think will be appreciated and what do you think is special to give your loved ones?
Finding the best wedding favors can be hard as there are lots of favors that you can choose from and many that are quite expensive. Considering that there are about 50 to 100 people or more at your wedding, you will have to plan your budget for the wedding favors accordingly. You might find that most wedding favors are too expensive.
Aside from the shells, you can also use other things that are free or that you have perhaps made. You can also give people something that might not seem like much, but that has a special meaning. This could be something like a packet of seeds that you want to share as you grow in your life together. It might be something simple like a poem or a single candle. You can wrap this with a ribbon and include a special message for your loved ones.
You can also have a special item made for you that will be a great reminder for people. You can do something like heart shaped fridge magnets with a special engraving. This can also be a key ring, or bottle stopper. Think about things people will get the most use out of.
Something that can also be cheap as it will double as another item is a bottle of bubbles. These can be blown by your guests instead of using confetti or throwing rice or petals. It will look stunning and your guests will get to keep these as well. You can print a message or your wedding date and have these stuck on each bottle.
You can also use lavender or something similar to make a wonderful scented gift. You can use the actual lavender sticks and tie them together with ribbon. Attach this to a unique recipe like lavender shortbread for people. You can also attach this to a small lavender scented miniature pillow that you put under your pillow to help you sleep.
Some of the best wedding favor ideas are ones you find on the internet. There are hundreds of wedding favor stores and online wedding sites that have tons of ideas and gifts for sale or that you can order. These include cigarette cases, lighters, bottle openers, photo frames, figurines, place card holders, candles, candle holders, boxes filled with chocolates or candies, and much more. There really are hundreds and hundreds of ideas for wedding favors.
With all these ideas you can now start to think about what you want to give people as a thank you. What do you think will be appreciated and what do you think is special to give your loved ones?
How to Get Your Husband to Love You More - Helpful Advice For Wives
Marriages seem to have an ebb and flow to them. They start out full of passion with both partners deeply committed to making the other happy. If you can remember back to when you first married your husband, chances are that you placed his happiness before your own and he did the same. If his feelings have started to shift, it can put you in a very difficult place. Watching your primary relationship slowly die right in front of your eyes is never an easy thing. If you still love your husband and you are committed to making the marriage work, there are some simple steps you can take, starting today, to get your husband to love you more.
The most important step you can take to get your husband to love you more is talk to him about what he feels is lacking in the relationship. Not all men are quick to reveal their innermost feelings, but if you make it clear to your husband that you want to help deal with whatever he feels is missing from your marriage, he may just open up to you. You have to do this in a non-threatening way and you can't go on the defensive or he'll shut down. Let him know that nothing is as important to you as he is. Ensure he knows that you value the marriage and him.
Most women have no idea that one way to get your husband to love you more is to focus on yourself. We tend to put everyone's needs and interests above our own when we become wives and mothers. This can actually have a damaging effect on your relationship with your husband. If a man feels that he's not stimulating enough or interesting enough for his wife, he may give up trying. Show him that you have a full, well -rounded life that he is the center of. Find something to pursue outside of the home, be it a career or even volunteer work. You'll not only feel better about yourself, which will show your husband how much value you are placing on your needs, but it will give you two something exciting and new to talk about together.
The most important step you can take to get your husband to love you more is talk to him about what he feels is lacking in the relationship. Not all men are quick to reveal their innermost feelings, but if you make it clear to your husband that you want to help deal with whatever he feels is missing from your marriage, he may just open up to you. You have to do this in a non-threatening way and you can't go on the defensive or he'll shut down. Let him know that nothing is as important to you as he is. Ensure he knows that you value the marriage and him.
Most women have no idea that one way to get your husband to love you more is to focus on yourself. We tend to put everyone's needs and interests above our own when we become wives and mothers. This can actually have a damaging effect on your relationship with your husband. If a man feels that he's not stimulating enough or interesting enough for his wife, he may give up trying. Show him that you have a full, well -rounded life that he is the center of. Find something to pursue outside of the home, be it a career or even volunteer work. You'll not only feel better about yourself, which will show your husband how much value you are placing on your needs, but it will give you two something exciting and new to talk about together.
A married woman's secret sex journal
A married woman anonymously takes us through, step by step, her daily double life. Cindy Hawkins (not her real name) is a cheater. Take a look into the real life of a married woman with a devoted husband, and her shameless cheating.
Over the coming weeks, we will be publishing the spin tingling results of the completed surveys from members of our online dating site. Respondents include singles and married people who have made choices to turn their fantasies into realities.
It's Monday morning, the time is 730am, and at last the long and mundane weekend is over. Cindy lies awake gazing at the ceiling for about 10 minutes before impatiently sliding out from under her husbands embrace.
Yes, I cheat on my husband in a calculating and deceptive way and will say or do anything to avoid suspicion. Go ahead, judge me if you will, I know you've thought about cheating too. Flirting with men was about as far as I would take things, I thought I would always be strong enough to know when not to cross the line, and return home like a good little wife, until I was introduced to someone at work and realized an instant chemical connection...
The affair started in the office kitchen when we would both go to make coffee each morning. Things intensified with a few naughty emails, followed by cocktails after work on several occasions.
Twice a week - Monday and Wednesday at 630pm after work, we meet at a cheap motel on the highway just outside of town, my skin quivers as I drive to the motel. As I collect the room key, my heart pounds through my chest. There is something so pleasurably unproblematic about simmering life's procedures down to pure physicality. Our sex is nasty and frantic, and I am happy to risk being found out. His torso is alien to me, so different, so strong. The name of his wife tattooed on his chest is even more exhilarating knowing it's not just me completely throwing caution to the wind.
My husband is pretty out of touch with reality and would never suspect me of acting in such a trampish manner. Simple excuses like, going out with the girls, or working back late is all it takes to secure a couple of hours of betrayal. As I arrive home, my husband is often hoping to make love, but I don't feel ashamed, perhaps when it's all over I will.
Apart from our twice a week hotel meets, sex at work is the only other feasible option. This is very convenient for me as I can easily make it home from work on time without tripping any suspicion detectors. The last thing anyone would suspect is for me to be doing it on my hands and knees on the grey commercial carpet tiles at 1130am in a locked office. It's like a ritual, the first thing he does is bends me over his desk, (my underwear already removed when driving to work) I have become his office whore, but keeping my full body orgasms quiet is the biggest challenge.
Everything has become too erotic, I am smart enough to know when to call it a day, a secret of such proportion is too large to sweep under the carpet. I am becoming too focused on him and the sex, it occurs to me the grand scheme of damage this could have ( and probably already has) on my other life. The secret hot emails, the dangerous stares and groping must stop...
I decide to quit my job without any notice, and cancel my secret email account.
Over the coming weeks, we will be publishing the spin tingling results of the completed surveys from members of our online dating site. Respondents include singles and married people who have made choices to turn their fantasies into realities.
It's Monday morning, the time is 730am, and at last the long and mundane weekend is over. Cindy lies awake gazing at the ceiling for about 10 minutes before impatiently sliding out from under her husbands embrace.
Yes, I cheat on my husband in a calculating and deceptive way and will say or do anything to avoid suspicion. Go ahead, judge me if you will, I know you've thought about cheating too. Flirting with men was about as far as I would take things, I thought I would always be strong enough to know when not to cross the line, and return home like a good little wife, until I was introduced to someone at work and realized an instant chemical connection...
The affair started in the office kitchen when we would both go to make coffee each morning. Things intensified with a few naughty emails, followed by cocktails after work on several occasions.
Twice a week - Monday and Wednesday at 630pm after work, we meet at a cheap motel on the highway just outside of town, my skin quivers as I drive to the motel. As I collect the room key, my heart pounds through my chest. There is something so pleasurably unproblematic about simmering life's procedures down to pure physicality. Our sex is nasty and frantic, and I am happy to risk being found out. His torso is alien to me, so different, so strong. The name of his wife tattooed on his chest is even more exhilarating knowing it's not just me completely throwing caution to the wind.
My husband is pretty out of touch with reality and would never suspect me of acting in such a trampish manner. Simple excuses like, going out with the girls, or working back late is all it takes to secure a couple of hours of betrayal. As I arrive home, my husband is often hoping to make love, but I don't feel ashamed, perhaps when it's all over I will.
Apart from our twice a week hotel meets, sex at work is the only other feasible option. This is very convenient for me as I can easily make it home from work on time without tripping any suspicion detectors. The last thing anyone would suspect is for me to be doing it on my hands and knees on the grey commercial carpet tiles at 1130am in a locked office. It's like a ritual, the first thing he does is bends me over his desk, (my underwear already removed when driving to work) I have become his office whore, but keeping my full body orgasms quiet is the biggest challenge.
Everything has become too erotic, I am smart enough to know when to call it a day, a secret of such proportion is too large to sweep under the carpet. I am becoming too focused on him and the sex, it occurs to me the grand scheme of damage this could have ( and probably already has) on my other life. The secret hot emails, the dangerous stares and groping must stop...
I decide to quit my job without any notice, and cancel my secret email account.
Steps to Take If Your Husband Wants Out of the Marriage and You Still Love Him
If your husband wants out of the marriage and you are still deeply committed to the relationship, the two of you are at a crossroads. You have to make a decision about whether you are willing to give up a future with the man you married and love, or whether you are ready to move on without him. If you are determined to keep your family together, you need a plan of attack to win back your husband's love. It's not nearly as difficult as it sounds if you always remember that at one time he loved you deeply.
Marriages change and start falling apart for many reasons. The stresses of everyday life including paying bills and raising children can have a strong impact on how a couple interacts. Resentment can also build if you and your husband are struggling with any ongoing issues. Couples can often reach a point where they rarely talk because they know their discussions will become heated because of the tension already there between them. If this is happening in your relationship you need to take control of the situation. You need to find a solution to the problem and without a doubt that is going to mean compromise on your part. You have to weigh whether the issue at hand is worth risking your marriage for.
Another matter that is often at the root of difficulties in marriages is that the partners have just stopped appreciating each other. If your husband doesn't feel that you are grateful for what he brings to your life, his feelings for you are bound to shift. If your husband wants out of the marriage it's easy to tell him that you love him and are thankful for what he does for you, but it's much more effective if you show him. Start complimenting him and thank him when he contributes to the household or does specific things for you. Cook his favorite dinner and plan some activities that you know he enjoys. Make him feel special and valued again. That can go a long way to helping heal a broken relationship
Marriages change and start falling apart for many reasons. The stresses of everyday life including paying bills and raising children can have a strong impact on how a couple interacts. Resentment can also build if you and your husband are struggling with any ongoing issues. Couples can often reach a point where they rarely talk because they know their discussions will become heated because of the tension already there between them. If this is happening in your relationship you need to take control of the situation. You need to find a solution to the problem and without a doubt that is going to mean compromise on your part. You have to weigh whether the issue at hand is worth risking your marriage for.
Another matter that is often at the root of difficulties in marriages is that the partners have just stopped appreciating each other. If your husband doesn't feel that you are grateful for what he brings to your life, his feelings for you are bound to shift. If your husband wants out of the marriage it's easy to tell him that you love him and are thankful for what he does for you, but it's much more effective if you show him. Start complimenting him and thank him when he contributes to the household or does specific things for you. Cook his favorite dinner and plan some activities that you know he enjoys. Make him feel special and valued again. That can go a long way to helping heal a broken relationship
How to Know Your Husband Loves You - Advice For Married Women
Marriage isn't a bed of roses. Any woman who has a husband knows that. Once the honeymoon phase is over and real life begins, the dynamic of the relationship can shift. It's not unusual for a woman to start questioning what her spouse is feeling for her. So when it comes to how to know your husband loves you the answer is more in his actions than in his words.
Most women, at some point in their lives, have been involved with a man who said all the right words but couldn't back them up. If that man happens to be your husband, you're caught in a delicate situation. Do you take him at his word and believe that he's crazy about you or do you pay closer attention to the subtle hints that are hidden away in his actions? What he does is much more telling than what he says.
One easy way to determine what your husband is feeling for you is how attentive he is to your needs. Early in marriage we often feel like queens because our husbands dote on us. If you notice that dynamic changing, take notice of it. Naturally as the marriage progresses and you have children and more responsibilities, his interest may shift, but if he seems unconcerned or doesn't offer to help, that may be a sign that his feelings have changed.
Has your husband been coming up with excuses for why he can't spend time with you? If he has, that's a red flag that you cannot ignore. Our first instinct is to jump to the conclusion that our spouse is having an affair, but that's not always the case. A husband can feel emotional conflict over spending time with his wife when he feels less in love with her. He may feel that it's too difficult to go through the motions of appearing in love. So instead he finds reasons to avoid being with her. If you feel that is happening in your own marriage, now is the time to address it before things deteriorate to the point of divorce.
Most women, at some point in their lives, have been involved with a man who said all the right words but couldn't back them up. If that man happens to be your husband, you're caught in a delicate situation. Do you take him at his word and believe that he's crazy about you or do you pay closer attention to the subtle hints that are hidden away in his actions? What he does is much more telling than what he says.
One easy way to determine what your husband is feeling for you is how attentive he is to your needs. Early in marriage we often feel like queens because our husbands dote on us. If you notice that dynamic changing, take notice of it. Naturally as the marriage progresses and you have children and more responsibilities, his interest may shift, but if he seems unconcerned or doesn't offer to help, that may be a sign that his feelings have changed.
Has your husband been coming up with excuses for why he can't spend time with you? If he has, that's a red flag that you cannot ignore. Our first instinct is to jump to the conclusion that our spouse is having an affair, but that's not always the case. A husband can feel emotional conflict over spending time with his wife when he feels less in love with her. He may feel that it's too difficult to go through the motions of appearing in love. So instead he finds reasons to avoid being with her. If you feel that is happening in your own marriage, now is the time to address it before things deteriorate to the point of divorce.
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